Unsafe People

Someone else had these quotes posted on their blog and I really liked what I read and I wanted to put it here:

-Unsafe people blame others instead of taking responsibility.
-Unsafe people lie instead of telling the truth.
-Unsafe people see deception as a strategy to cling to and to manage life & relationships. They defend instead of give up their lies.
-Unsafe people think they have it all together instead of admitting their weaknesses
-Unsafe people are religious instead of spiritual
-Unsafe people are defensive instead of open to feedback (specifically, they make excuses & start attacking others)
-Unsafe people are self-righteous instead of humble (specifically, they have a character structure that does not allow them to see certain realities as part of themselves. They project things onto others & cannot own their own flaws)
-Unsafe people only apologize instead of changing their behavior
-Unsafe people avoid working on their problems instead of dealing with them. They resist any form of character growth or maturation, ie:
-do not admit they have problems
-do not confess when they have wronged someone
-do not forgive people who have hurt them
-avoid facing relationship problems directly & openly
-treat others with a lack of empathy
-are not open to confrontation from others
-do not take responsibility for their lives
-blame others for their problems
They act out of their unconscious hurts, and then hurt others

Unsafe people demand trust instead of earning it. They feel "entitled". They get defensive and angry because someone questions their actions, and they think they are above being questioned or having to prove their trustworthiness. None of us are above questioning, and to take offense at it is very prideful.

"Be wary of people who say, 'how dare you question my integrity!'"

-Unsafe people believe they are perfect instead of admitting their faults.
-Unsafe people are on a mission to prove that they are perfect. Using their work, family, abilities, or religion, they try to project an image of perfection, and their image becomes more important to them than the relationships they are in.
If someone threatens their image, they will attack that person, for they must keep up their image at all costs.

They will fight, blame, and point fingers - anything that will put the badness onto the other person so that they may remain blameless.